Of Love, Lust & Ego

Wondering why suddenly I chose to write on such topic? Well I happened to watch this hindi movie "Dev.D" this afternoon. Don't worry I am not going to bore you with another film review. But this movie left me thinking if "true love" really exists in this materialistic world(don't perceive me as a "Sab moh-maya hai" type of guy)? I feel it does. But in 9 out of 10 cases one lusts for someone and mistake it as love. One can lust for many people in his/her lifetime but he/she will love only one. Its not necessary that the person you have fallen for is the most beautiful or most handsome or most intelligent person on this earth or you got attracted to him/her on the very first sight; it just happens and it takes its own time.

I feel one can fall in love with someone he/she lusts for but one can never lust for someone he/she has fallen in love with. Now comes the big question: does ego find any place in true love? Again I feel it does. You have every right to be an egoist if you truly love someone. Your ego will be hurt when your love-interest doesn't reciprocate your feelings or sentiments with the same passion or intensity. Your ego will be hurt when you see the same love in his/her eyes for some third person. Excuse me if I sound possessive but being true in love entitles you to these exclusive rights to him/her. So if you truly love someone never compromise on your ego because your ego itself is a great love-statement. But if you lust for someone the last thing you need is ego provided the other party shows interest.

While returning after watching this movie we(three of us in auto) were discussing the message of the movie. I told it was all about lust. But one of them disagreed and told it was all about telling youngster to take it easy("Chill" in his words). But now I have second thoughts on the issue. I feel the movie was about "moving on" in one's life and I will put it precisely in following Hindi couplet....

               "Paro-Paro chikh-chikh kar kab tak phirega tu yun dukhi

          Hosh mein aaja Dev.D tujhe dhoond rahi hai Chandramukhi"